The voices in our head

One of the speakers at Blissdom last month was Jon Acuff. He is a speaker and author and has an amazing way of making you laugh and then making you cry (in a good sorta way). He gave the opening keynote which was full of so many good things I’d love to share.

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One of the most touching and relevant to me topics he spoke about, and the one I will focus on in this post, are the negative voices we hear in our heads.

See, I have dealt with this for my whole life, I believe. There was always a voice telling me that “I am not good enough, I am not smart enough, I don’t have what it takes to do ______.”

And I know, in my head, the logical part of me, that these things are not true.

But my heart still hears them, and causes it to cry just a little each time.

I wasn’t the only one!

But to hear Jon talk about this on stage, and then for him to ask his audience, over 800 women, what some of the voices in their heads were saying, that was eye-opening, even to my heart!

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These women were yelling out the same things that the voices had been saying to me all those years.

In this room of confident, successful women they were hearing them too. And they caused each of them a little pain in their hearts too.

Oh, if only we women could learn, first of all, that those voices are liars.

  • They are our insecurities trying to keep us from stretching out and being all we were meant to be.
  • They are the people from our past who were in pain themselves and inflicted this pain onto us as well.
  • They are people from our present who are afraid to reach for their own dreams, so they want to keep you from doing so as well.
  • And because I am a Christian, I will even go as far to say that those voices are from the enemy himself, trying to keep you from the very best that God has for you, if you will only step out in faith and accept it.

I don’t know that we will ever make these voices go away. 

But I believe that knowing that you are not the only one who hears those negative voices can help give you the strength and the confidence you need to stand up and say “I AM good enough!” I CAN do _________!”  

Making the truth louder than the lies

When those voices rise up inside of you, begin stating things that ARE true about you.

That you are an amazing woman.

That you have incredible strength.

That your trials have made you stronger, not weaker.

That you are a child of God, and that makes you good enough.

Declare that you refuse to listen to them anymore.

 

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17 comments to The voices in our head

  • Gerra H.

    I declare right now that I will refuse to listen to these negative voices within. Is there another program like that? I wish I could attend next time.

    -Gerra
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  • Kim

    I have started saying “You are not welcome here” when my mind slips back in the barrage of berating that has become my normal…those thoughts are not welcome in this new mind that knows, understands and FEELS that I am good enough, smart enough, strong enough…It is making such a difference! And, it has also shown me, just by being aware, how much that inner diaglogue was hurting my heart. No more!!!!

  • Kim

    And that should say HAD become my normal….but it is not my normal now!!!

  • Those voices are heard by everyone and they have defeated many a good woman I hate to say . We inherited these voices from the simn of Adam and Eve where we no longer trust conscious mind any longer.
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  • I would add that there are times when we need to tell others that we need help fighting those voices. Late last year into early this year I had a hormonal imbalance combined with chronic pain induced depression that led to the voices going beyond negative and into suicidal. That is NOT my nature. So the day that I had to struggle the whole way home from work against a temptation to speed up and drive my car into a cement wall … I knew I was in trouble. And I told my husband and some close friends that I wasn’t strong enough to fight. I made an appointment with my doctor to get my medication adjusted and thankfully the worst of the voices have been silenced. But in the interim … those few months where the voices were the loudest and the most unkind … I was upheld by others. Because I couldn’t fight alone!
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  • What a wonderful empowering post!
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  • Lisa

    Thanks for the post. Tonight is my first night on Twitter and this is my first post. And this is exactly what I needed.

  • The chatterbox in my head will not be stilled unless I reach an agreement with it. I have stopped fighting this voice, because once I give upthe fight, and get into agreement with God about letting go and letting God, then I will always be ruled by that negative voice that arrives at the best times to thwart any positive feelings I’m getting. I almost have it down to knowing when it will happen…when things are going so well. I think awareness of it’s existance, and confirming that it is not me, only a hateful voice, and meditation as the watcher of things going on, and not the participator.

  • Oh wow.. Thanks a lot for sharing this. It’s very inspiring. To be able to hear, and understand well the voices in our head, it’s a pretty hard thing to do actually.
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  • Nicole

    this is so very true and uplifting! We should really feel beautiful from the inside so we would look beautiful from the outside. :) Thanks for sharing this..
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  • EXCELLENT!!!!! Hugs and Love! Amazing speaker and person Jon is!
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  • I keep asking myself why peopleremember that God made us all in his own image and likeness and all that he created was good, but yet we defeat ourselves and allow other to destroy our dreams and goals.
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  • Like I told you on Twiter, I needed this today. I need to post affirmations around my house…
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  • Chezianne

    I agree that this is very empowering post for us…Anyway, thank you for the inspiring tips and for sure this can motivate more people to live happily…
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  • I so get this. I felt the same way when they were shouting out what the voices were saying–it made me slightly uncomfortable, because, really, who wants to admit these things out loud? But when we do, it helps us defeat them, right?! Great post.
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  • Jim

    Those voices stop us all from doing so much! I literally wrote a letter to these voices (resistance) just to kind of call them out and get it out of my head and on to paper. It’s unbelievable how we all face the same voices yet we feel so alone, like we are the only one that hears them.

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