I am currently in a period of learning how to let go. To let go of those closest to me. To let go of my expectations. To learn I can’t fix others, I can only fix me.
I came across this poem below in my therapist’s office, and looked it up online. It’s author is anonymous, but these are great words that can be applicable in so many different situations. We are all going through something.
I hope is helps you, as it has helped me. I need to print and keep on my mirror.
Update: I actually was able to copy the one at my therapists and found some differences, which I have now made below.
To “let go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t live someone else’s life for them.
To “let go” is not to cut myself off, it is the realization that I can’t control another.
To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hand.
To “let go” is not to change or blame another, it is to be responsible for myself in that situation.
To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
To “let go” means I want what God wants in the situation, and not what I think is best for me or the other person.
To “let go” is not to judge, but allow another to be a human being.
To “let go” is not to be in the middle of arranging all the outcomes but to allow others to affect their own lives.
To “let go” is not to deny but to accept.
To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To “let go” is not to criticize or regulate anyone else’s life, but to do my best to become all that I can be.
To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my own desires but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and to live for today.
To “let go” is to fear less and love more.
To “let go” is to hug someone, but not to hold him so tightly he is crushed and smothered.
To “let go” is to give a person or situation to God, who is the only one, who, can, work everything together for our good and for his glory.
Perhaps it is letting go of a rebellious child or a burden of sorrow, losing a loved one or learning to live with heartache which we just cannot let go of. Read this over. Study it…..and you will find letting go of your load will allow your spirit to soar.
For me one of the most gentle and beautiful reminders of letting go is the butterfly…hold it too tight and we risk damaging their delicate wings or fatally crushing them.