Letting go of the hard stuff so the real me can emerge

This post is part of an awesome series that the ladies over at SITS put together. If you don’t know who SITS is, you gotta check them out! An awesome group of women full of support and encouragment! The series is called Letting Go: How to Inspire the Best in You. You can link up here at the LettingGo Link up!

I have quite a bit to let go of. I want to let go of the feelings of failure from having experienced a mental meltdown last year. I want to let go of the anxiety that plagues me often throughout the week still. I want to let go of the lack of confidence that is holding me back from the next things in my life.

Letting Go

Good-bye Dr. Jones!

I had aready made the decision that I was at the point I needed to move on from my weekly counseling sessions. I have gotten much better and had been feeling like they were now a crutch instead of the stepping stones that had been for the past 8 months.

Embracing the scars

I am embracing the scars that the past 3 years (and further) have left in my heart and mind. They have been tough, but they have made me a stronger woman for it. Things like a heart procedure for husband, beginning a very stressful, yet rewarding corporate career, husband suffering a brain aneurysm and being in ICU for 2 weeks and not knowing what the outcome will be, working 80+ hour weeks and not listening to my body, going to the ER because I thought I was having a heart attack, having a breakdown in front of your boss, being barricaded behind my own fear and anxiety and not leaving the house. 

These things above have been tough, and though I am embracing the scars they have left me with, I am releasing their hold on my future. It is time for me to move on. Under these scars, I am a strong woman. And it has been made painfully clear to me that I am at my strongest when I admit that I cannot do it all. Only when I submit my stubborness and my need for control to God, does He come in and help me to achieve the best things in my life.

Building on my strengths

My strengths are empathy, encouragement, inspiring others, helping them to see in themselves what they have been unable to believe. I am an innovative thinker, ready to attack new challenges. I love to connect and to help connect others together. If I didn’t already know this about myself, I have plenty of corporate personality testing to back it up!

One thing I enjoyed about the corporate job that I left was that I was able to sit down with women and help them explore their strengths and talents and discover what their true passion was. What they really wanted to be doing with their life. To see that light in their eyes when they finally believed that they were made for something more than what they were currently doing, was awesome.

Shooting for the stars

The time has come for me to build on these strengths and to shoot for the stars! You will see in the upper right corner, there is a link that says Discovering the New You. This is the start of the next phase. Over the next few months I will be building and developing a personal life coaching business. My dream is to help everyone to enjoy getting out of the bed in the morning!

My goal is to offer life coaching at prices that people can actually afford. I will also be offering some video course and group coaching sessions in the future to help keep the cost down.


Know that I am not abandoning Living the Balanced Life! I believe there is a need for the tips and guidance provided here. You may notice a few changes, but they won’t be major and they would be slow in coming. Please know that I will still be here!

I wrote another post that is along these same lines, but where I was in my recovery journey a few months ago- If you are interested, you can read here- Letting go of who I thought I was supposed to be

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18 comments to Letting go of the hard stuff so the real me can emerge

  • You are such a strong woman! Look at what you have overcome and are still pressing on! Thank you for sharing this! I know you will go on to do GREAT things!
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  • I love your poster. It is so definite and goal oriented. That is awesome!

    Scars are hard because they are still there, but it is so important to learn from the experience that left them. It sounds like that is exactly what you are doing.
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  • You are so positive in this post! It made me want to cheer for you. :)
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  • Stopping by from SITS. Thanks for being so honest. Good luck in your journey!

  • Your post really spoke to me because I also need to let go of the past three years. I am bookmarking this and coming back anytime I need a reminder. Thanks! And good luck on your new journey!

  • Ter

    Beautiful my dear. Inspiring. Just wondering….do you do yoga? Second time today I have thrown that out there to someone, but it works for me and many others I know. It centers you, strengthens your “core”, in more ways than one. When stuff gets me down, it is my time for me. Happy to share more ideas about that if you are intersted, just ignore me if you already practice. Keep being honest and out there with your thoughts and goals, it helps to have the encouragement and support of others to keep you on track.

  • I know that journey.
    It does change a person; good on you for embracing the scras, but still reachjing for the stars!
    Visiting from the SITS linky.
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  • Hi there, thanks for the Tweet today and I’m happy to visit your blog. Sounds like you are going through some rough times so please feel free to reach out. Kaye and I can relate to what you’re going through. Stay strong. And please say hi again :)
    Lulu and Kaye

  • Wow, that is a lot to let go. Good on ya, sounds like you are ready. I am rooting for you…
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  • This post really made me appreciate the trials I’ve gone through lately and have shown me that things can and o get better. Good luck on all your endeavors and thanks for this eye-opening post.
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  • You are truly amazing. You have overcome such intense personal struggles and yet are striving to lead others. You are inspiring!
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  • Yes!! I love that you have goals and you definitely sound strong enough to make this happen! Go for it!!
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  • This is so inspiring. You’ve clearly been through so much and are such a strong woman to get through it as you have. That in itself should be a point of pride for you – but then your goals and your aspirations make you that much more admirable. I suffer from a lot of the self-doubt that you describe and have a tendency to let my circumstances get me down. You’re a great example for me and I thank you for sharing this!!
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  • I especially like how you are embracing your scars. So often we suppress (or repress) our scars, thinking somehow, that’s the thing to do. Or, perhaps we don’t ‘think’ at all, but it’s some sort of defense mechanism we have built in to protect ourselves.
    I believe that through embracing our scars and truly being able to let go, we are ON OUR WAY.

    I feel so strongly about it, I dedicate much of my time and energy interviewing people about times in their lives when they’ve worried about something, only to realize that once they LET GO and TRUSTED, that they were completely taken care of. Knowing God is on our side and that we are not alone is a very powerful thing, indeed.

    If you believe you have a story that fits into that category (we ALL do…and from reading your blog, I can tell you have more than one!), that you’d like to share, I’d love to hear it.

    Thanks for writing and sharing.

    With love,

  • Oh, I wish you so much success with this! Wonderful!
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    bernicewood Reply:

    Thank you so much for the encouragement!

  • What a blessing you will be!
    Your knowledge, strength and wisdom will be such a light to those in need, you are so uplifting and I for one, always enjoy reading what you have to say!

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