Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.
~ Jim Rohn
Many of you get up every day and go through the motions. You get up and take a shower, and hop in the car. Or maybe you take a train. You go to a job that is just *there*. You do your work, and go home. Maybe you pick up kids from daycare. Or go by the grocery store. There are sports practices to go to, meetings to attend.
Maybe you are a stay-at-home parent. You are lucky if you get a shower in the morning. You spend your day changing diapers, feeding children and cleaning messes. You may go to the park, the library, the grocery store. You spend the afternoons supervising homework, and evenings at practices.
In the back of your mind, you are sure there is something more to life. When you were in college and dreamed of your future, this wasn’t quite what you had in mind. On your wedding day, you dreamed of your future together. And this wasn’t quite it.
Living in default mode
When you install computer software, it comes with standard defaults, but you can make changes. You can add your preferences, your settings. If you leave things on default, the program will work as it was supposed to. It will get the job done. If, however, you choose the preferences, the software does things just how you want them to. It works more efficiently and effectively, based upon choices that you made. And it helps you do what you want to do better.
Maybe you have been living life on autopilot. You are doing things because that is what you are supposed to be doing. You let society and our culture dictate your life. You have chosen to live life by not choosing. You are living by default. By choosing not to choose, you are choosing to leave your future in the hands of chance.
Choosing to live
If you are tired of being on autopilot, it is time to stop living on default. It is time to make some choices for your life. It is time to decide to do something different.
- The first step is to decide what is important to you in your life. Is it your children, your health, your community, the environment?
- Start taking steps in your life to set your preferences
- Enlist the support of those closest to you
- Make deliberate choices about your day
How could this look in your life?
You decide that you are tired of being overweight, stiff and sluggish.
- Instead of eating processed foods, buy and eat more fresh vegetables
- Instead of drinking soda, even diet soda, you substitute water.
- Instead of sleeping another 30 minutes in the morning, you get up early and take a walk around the block.
- Instead of watching that last TV show in the evening, you do a yoga routine you downloaded from online.
- Instead of going to a movie, you choose to go on a hike in a park.
By making choices such as these, you are setting your preferences instead of living by default. You introduce new settings into your life, a new normal. These choices can bring about the changes that you want to see on your life.
What are some preferences in your life that you would like to change?