The speed of life for most Americans is fast. And the word fast doesn’t even begin to explain it. I have heard it called Hurry Sickness, and that is a good way of putting it. It has become the norm for so many people that even though they are stressed and overwhelmed at how their life is going, they don’t even know how to begin to change it.
One negative side effect of this Hurry Sickness is that it is a great opportunity to hide behind the busyness. You don’t take (or make) the time to examine your life. You tend to run on autopilot, going through the motions, not really determining if you are doing the important things in life. I addressed this a bit in the priorities posts.
Another thing we hide from is our feelings. With all the “noise” in our lives, it is easy to ignore them. Many of us don’t want to address our feelings anyway, and subconsciously we use our busyness as a justification to avoid them.
We are moving so fast, so busy, juggling so many things with our career, our family, their activities, our activities, our home responsibilities, that our feelings and emotions don’t have a chance to be heard. And we get used to this busyness and stuffing our feelings, until it has become our norm, our way of life.
A train wreck just waiting to happen!
That is what happened to me last year as I was working 80+ hours a week. Plus, I allowed my job to take up way too much mental energy as well, and thought about it for most of my hours awake, and I even dreamed about work! I didn’t want to feel the feelings of stress and overwhelm that were chasing me, the depression and anxiety that were haunting me, so the busier I was the better.
You see, I was miserable in my job and how I had let it take over my life. I was frustrated that the company required so much from us. I was angry and frustrated at dealing with my mentally handicapped brother who was defiantly refusing my help and guidance, but wanted me to be there to help bail him out of trouble when he screwed things up. I was not dealing well with my kids preparing to leave home, leaving hubby and I with an empty nest after 30 years. I physically was wearing myself at as well.
I didn’t know what I could do to solve the issues that were making me miserable, so I just kept going full steam so I was too tired to even think about them. This is what many of my readers are doing as well. Or, if you aren’t at that point, you probably know someone who is.
My solution was not the best one. I had a breakdown and came to a complete stop. I hope that you are not on your way there. I hope and pray that you can see where you are headed and use this journey to help create a better life for yourself.
The first step is that you learn to just BE. You may not even know how to do that at this point.
- Turn off all electronics, including music at this point
- Sit someplace where you won’t be disturbed. Aim for at least 15 minutes a day.
- Have a journal or notebook and pen handy.
- Close your eyes, and focus on breathing, slowly and deeply, in and out.
- Take a few minutes to pray to center yourself and to calm your mind
- Think about the things in your life that aren’t working well for you. Begin to write what you are feeling. There are no right or wrong things to write. Just let your feelings and thoughts flow onto the paper.*
*If you don’t feel you are a writer, you can still do this exercise, just allow yourself to feel, that is the most important thing!
I encourage you to do this exercise today, as soon as possible. Come back, if you’d like and share what you found in the comments. If you feel it too personal, please feel free to send me an email at bernicemwood @ gmail dot com. Just know this is not a one-time exercise. This is something you need to allow yourself to do on a regular basis, daily if possible!