Are you stuck in a rut?

There is no improving the future without disturbing the present ~ Catherine Booth {co-founder of the Salvation Army}

Many of us want change in our life, we want something different. We are stuck in a rut we can’t seem to get out of. Sometimes we stay stuck because we don’t know where we really want to be, where we want to end up outside of the rut, so we stay where it is comfortable. It would take effort to move ourselves out of the rut, and even though we may not like the rut, it is comfortable, and we know what to expect there.

stuck in a rut

The problem is, like the quote above, nothing in the future will be improved if we don’t make changes to our present. We have to decide that the desire for a different future is stronger than the comfort of staying in the same old rut.

Some things to do pull yourself out the rut

Think about where you currently are. Your current situation. Assess it.

  • What do you NOT like? Be very specific.
  • What DO you like about the rut you are currently in? What is working for you? What parts do you want to keep?

Think about a place you’d rather be. I am not talking about the Bahamas here.

  • Where do you want your life to go?
  • How do you want it to look day-to-day?
  • How can you integrate the things you currently like with where you’d like to be?
  • What steps can you take to make the changes necessary to pull you out of the rut?

Always start with baby steps

When you are looking to disturb your present to improve your future, make sure that you do so in little baby steps. Major change is difficult to maintain. Small steps are easier. Don’t work on everything at once. Pick something to work on this week. Next week, pick something else.

Once you are out of the rut, your road may be bumpy for a while, until you make a new path for yourself. You will subconsciously slip back into the rut if you are not careful. Be on the lookout for frustration with the bumps and the discomfort of the new road.

A story about me

I have written before about my quest to move more and to lose some weight. It helps me that I have my words right here on my blog glaring back at me what I said I wanted to do, lol! Back in November, I got in the great habit of walking on the treadmill and doing yoga every morning. Then in January, I began having some hip troubles. After I returned from Blissdom, I was out of my routine and I had so much I wanted to do, so I would get up and go straight to my laptop in the morning, forgoing exercise.

Needless to say, this rut has caught up with me. I have gained 10+ pounds and my hip and back are killing me. I WANT to be healthy and active. I want to have energy. I would love to lose the weight I gained and maybe a little more. I am stuck in a rut though. It is so easy and comfortable to me to get up, feed the dogs, make the coffee, and turn on the laptop. I don’t particularly LIKE to exercise, but to achieve the future I want for myself, it WILL be necessary.

So, what am I going to do to pull myself out of this rut? No laptop until treadmill, yoga and a 15 minute house pickup is done. To make this happen, I will put my workout clothes and shoes and socks by my bed the night before. I have to be able to get dressed without thinking too hard before caffeine! My babystep is just to get dressed in workout clothes every morning.

On a new road  to your future

When you pull yourself out of a rut, you are on your way to making the changes in your present to create the future that you want. So many think that they are not able to get out of the rut, that they are destined to be there forever. You CAN get out. It may be difficult, it may take time, but you CAN create a different future for yourself and for your family!

Is there a rut you need to pull yourself out of? What is the first change you need to make?

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16 comments to Are you stuck in a rut?

  • Hi Bernice,
    good post about the baby steps towards your goals. I like the idea of setting out the necessary clothes the night before so that when you get up in the morning they are there ready to be worn, i guess it’s like training yourself to start a new habit, a productive one.
    It’s definitely safer to stay in the rut, nothing there that will come unexpectedly and take you by surprise. But if we can climb out of that rut, we may be surprised at how many exciting opportunities have been surrounding us.
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  • Good for you Bernice! I’ve been trying to be more consistent with exercising also. It’s easier now that spring is finally starting to appear in Ohio, but the winters are rough! It’s so hard to bundle up and go out int he bitter cold when the house is so comfy and warm. I always walk or bike outside, which works out great when the weather is nice, but not so great when it isn’t.

    Oh, and I need to stop eating so much. ;)
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    bernicewood Reply:

    Hi Jenny!
    Of course the morning I put this out on my blog that I am going to get back on the exercise train, my whole night was thrown off kilter, including this morning! I haven’t made it to the treadmill yet, but have to go into town in a few and will probably visit a walking trail while in town. Determined!
    Oh, and yea, the eating thing is an issue for me too, lol!

  • Thanks your for your kinds words celebrating my SITS day! Sometimes it is hard to even realize you are in a rut!
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  • Hi Bernice,

    There’s a book I read recently called Choosing Easy World, which I highly recommend. In it, you learn ways to opt out of fear and struggle and align your real needs with your actions. Thinking in terms of what’s easy and exciting makes it so much simpler to accomplish goals. It’s the best way I know for getting out of a rut.
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  • What’s your baby step to getting out of a rut?: Are you stuck in a rut? 6 tips to help you climb out via @womanonajourney

  • Bernice,

    AW Tozer, famous 20th-century pastor and author, said that we do the rote – then we get in a rut and later you begin to rot.

    Don’t rot! :)

  • Daniel Barrett

    Hello all,

    If you are feeling stuck in a rut, and would like to change your life, I would love to speak with you.

    I myself was once caught in a horrible rut – a truly awful, powerless experience that took me years to break out of. I now help teach people how to break out of ruts and truly change their lives.

    I’m thinking of writing a book, and would love to interview anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut. I’ll give my best advice (for free!) just to learn more about this problem.

    If you’re interested, reply here or send me an email at so we can get in touch. Thanks!

  • My rut is basically just the general change I want to make in myself. I want to grow closer to God, and feel happy with my life. The rut is that I feel stagnant, dismembered in my faith, and scared of how I always let myself slide back into the void. I’m really trying to work on keeping myself above water now.
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  • Hi Bernice

    I’ve been working the past ten years as a software developer. It’s a difficult industry in which to keep up to date. I’m constantly expected to learn new things or I’ll be left behind. There is a lot of pressure to say the least. Recently I started feeling a little depressed when I realised a few of the younger guys in my team were coming up with ‘newer’ and more effective solutions. I realised I was in a rut. I’ve started my own blog at in a similar vein to your own. I too hope to help others like you have. Thanks for the inspiration!


  • Babysteps are the way to go.

    Good luck with your weight loss goal. Another key is to find an activity that you actually like to do.

    Getting out and having fun is a lot easier than forcing yourself to do the treadmill. I like to dance – and I found a great studio in town where I have made a lot of friends.

    Now finding the motivation to exercise is a lot easier.
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  • Kim

    Thank you for the info. I am very much tired of this path I am on and have made the decision to change it! I am going to be a brave single mother of 2 and pick up and move to Costa RIca….nothings impossible! Now if I could just figure out how to get my blog up off the ground!

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