Mother’s Day is this weekend. Many gifts will be given, cards will be made and given, many will be taken out to dinner, some will even receive nice gifts. While these are all well and good, there are a few gifts you should give yourself. Some of these you many need help managing or implementing, but I encourage each of you to take time to give yourself these 3 gifts. You’ll be a much happier mother for it!
I have listed a few posts for each of these gifts to help you with the process!
I’m not talking about a night off here. You need to cut yourself some slack. Give yourself a break and give yourself the credit you are due. You are a great mom and no matter how many mistakes you have made, you are doing the best you can. You need to stop thinking that others are perfect and that you are screwed up. That is simply not true. None of us are perfect, so give yourself a break, and while you’re at it, give the other moms around you a break too. They probably feel as inadequate as you!
These posts can help…
A date with yourself
And this needs to be time to think. Time to get real with yourself. Get a notebook and a pen and your favorite drink (preferably NOT alcoholic for the purpose of this exercise!) and go somewhere by yourself. The longer the better. If you can get an overnighter, awesome. If you only have an hour, take what you can get! Figure out what things are going right in your life and figure out how to do more of that. Make a list of things that need improving or changing in your life and brainstorm some things you could implement to make things better.
Don’t try to recreate your whole life, just focus on the things that would make the highest impact on your stress and sanity level.
These posts may help…
An attitude adjustment
We’ve all heard it said, “You are what you think”. It really is true. If you dwell on a thought or feeling, pretty soon you will start to feel it or believe it. And even if you really don’t believe it, it will affect your frame-of-mind. Look back at your list of things that aren’t going right in your life. Some of them suck, I am sure. And some of them cannot be changed. Sometimes the only thing that can be changed about a situation is the way you look at it.
I had a reader one time tell me that while she knew that getting enough sleep was important, since she had several small children and a nursing baby, she had resigned herself to the fact that a full night’s sleep wasn’t in her near future. She accepted that fact as part of having her babies. It didn’t help her get more sleep, but it changed her attitude about being frustrated because she wasn’t getting enough sleep.
These posts may help…